25 February 2018

I Broke It Off, So Why Am I Upset?

Choosing to end a relationship can be a difficult decision, it can also be a cut throat choice, but at the end of the day no matter how sure your decision making is you may not always come out the other side feeling as happy as you expected. So here you are, the one who break their heart but also the one feeling like shit, what's that about?

You're overcome with doubt about whether it was the right decision. You list every 'what if' and end up making yourself more upset than you were to bloody begin with because who knows, maybe things would of changed for the better? This is when you have to kick yourself up the ass and realise if things were going to change they already would have and you wouldn't have broken up with them in the first place.

You feel guilty and maybe even a little selfish, you've made the choice to end things because it's best for the both of you in the long run.. but it's easy to say that when you're the one on the decision end isn't it? Now you just have to sit back and give them space to allow them to come to terms with the breakup in their own way and it's hell, damn you empathy. 

You still care for them or worse, you still love them, unfortunately you can't turn that feeling off with a flick of a switch. The dumpee will more than likely question your feelings for them as it's you ending the relationship (because apparently dumping someone you love isn't a thing *eye roll*) but the reality is your feelings are the main reason why you were so sure to make the decision, you don't want to drag things out when they're not working. 

You think about how you used to be before things went south. There's a reason you two got together so naturally it hurts when you realise all that is lost. You're allowed to grieve a relationship no matter what side you're on because you have lost a partner, someone who you spent days, months or even years with and that is now gone. It's very unlikely you wanted to be in the position you are now so you're allowed to be a little (or very) upset about it, okay?



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