What 'I'm Not Okay' Really Means To Me

I've gotten into using my blog to open up about my mental heath, in fact I find it easier to write what I'm feeling and thinking on here than to actually talk to someone.. so whilst I'm going through a bad patch I've decided to write about what mental health looks like for me when I'm not okay, because to people on the outside they may not see what is really going because they expect to see things loud and clear but in reality it's not always that simple.


5 Tips To Get Rid Of A Clingy Ex

I'm talking about the ex who won't leave you alone - they're heartbroken and just want you back, but they don't quite understand you just aren't on the same page. Some people can quite happily tell their ex partners to fuck off and be done with it but we don't all find it so easy to be straight forward, so I thought I'd share some advice I have been given and learnt by and hopefully it will help those of you who are in this awkward situation.



Be straight forward.
You may not want to hurt him but you have to be honest and be blunt with him. There's no point beating around the bush, you've already done the shitty part by breaking up so it can't get any worse than that. You don't want the confusion and you don't want him to get the wrong end of the stick by being too nice. The more he thinks you care the more he thinks you'll change your mind.

Delete him!
Delete his number, unfollow all his social media's and get rid of him. You don't want the temptation to contact each other and you certainly don't want to be stalking each other's profiles, it's not healthy and doesn't allow you to move on.

Don't be guilt tripped.
It's very easy for him to make you feel guilty, he may do or tell you things that manipulate you into giving him attention. It's a simple fact that he is playing games so don't fall for it other wise you'll be going round in circles. The more you play into his hands the worse you will feel and YOU need to be happy.

Don't reply.
I know this might be hard, because you either want the last word or because you feel bad ignoring him, but every reply you send is an excuse for him to say something back whether it's nasty or nice. Don't forget, there's a block button for a reason.

Move on.
Don't wait for him to move on before you do, you're free to have a life when you feel ready. Everyone breaks up for different reasons so you may be thinking "fuck moving on I'm staying away from guys forever!" but whatever you do needs to make you happy so if you want to go on dates or just have a bit of fun then do that.

Hey 2019

Hey 2019 let's ignore that we are nearing the end of the second week of the New Year already. It's been months since anything was posted on my blog so I thought it would be a good idea to write a little something about what's been going on and where the hell I've been.

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Career. At the end of January last year a management restructure was announced at my work place, this meant my job role was no longer going to exist and therefore I was pretty fucked. I went through a roller coaster of emotions, do I take redundancy? Do I apply for a new role? Do I drop down a grade and be a normal colleague? In the end I thought "fuck it" and applied for a new management role as I had nothing to lose. Luckily for me I did alright and passed the assessment, which is all well and good but this meant moving to a new store.. bare in mind I have only worked in this one place since I was 17 the idea of leaving was bloody terrifying. Anyway, long story short I took the job, moved to a new store in June and faced the biggest challenge of my life so far.  It's certainly been a journey; I have made friends with some amazing people, learned a hell of a lot and experienced some crazy shit!

Home. Mum and myself had finally settled into our new flat and what happens? Our landlord decides to sell; this is when blogging really did get swept under the carpet! We had only been at the flat for a year so it was a massive pain in the backside but in the end it all worked out as we instead moved into a two bedroom new build that I have to say is pretty banging. It took quite a while for us to really get settled in though, especially as the whole career malarkey was happening at the exact same time.

Relationships. The last post I wrote was in regards to a break up at the beginning of last year, and after that I decided to take some time out to just enjoy myself, stop giving a fuck about relationships and generally have fun. This lasted a good couple of months; I had a few dates with a fuck boy from my past - we'll save that story for another time and I also dated Joe who I met online.. Joe soon became my other half and here we are now many months later... modern romance aye!

So there we go.. as much as I love blogging and want to post regularly I am rarely home and even when do manage to get time at home I procrastinate instead. I'm hoping this year I can be more productive and post on here more regularly because I definitely don't want to be one of those people who calls herself a blogger but only posts Instagram pictures. Happy New Year!

Guest Post: Important Dos And Don'ts Of Jersey Dresses

 Jersey dresses are a wardrobe staple for every woman -- and if you don't have one in your wardrobe, you should. Flattering and super comfortable, jersey dresses can be dressed down with a pair of sneakers for a day on the town, or dressed up with a pair of cute flats or heels for a day at the office or night on the town.  

While comparatively versatile in terms of wearability, the jersey dress does come with it's own set of style considerations: its own dos and don'ts to ensure optimal eye-fetching effect.  

Here's how wear (and how not to wear) this signature style.  

Jersey dresses are meant to be worn so that they skim your figure. You don’t want them to be frumpy and overly loose, but a jersey dress is not meant to cling to your body either. If you can see what kind of underwear you’re sporting when you wear the dress, it’s too tight! 

This really goes for any article of clothing you buy: don’t shy away from alterations! It should go without saying that we don’t all have the same shape, and we’re certainly not all the same height, so if you find the length or torso or neckline of your jersey dress isn’t falling just right  — but the rest of it is rocking  — then snag the dress and head to a good seamstress. Most (but not all) jersey dresses fall just above or at your knee, so if you’re on the shorter side and find it is falling at an odd midi-length, have it hemmed (or hem it yourself if you’re handy with your sewing machine!).  


Sure, jersey dresses are a simple style of dress, but your jersey dress doesn’t have to be basic. Opt for a beautiful jersey dress in a playful pattern or bold colour. Since jersey dresses are so figure flattering, now’s the time to slip into that bright pink or electric blue you’d been to shy to wear before. You can rest assured you’ll look amazing.  

DON’T: Forget Accessories 
Jersey Dress

You should never forget to accessorise any outfit, but especially a more simple cut of dress like a jersey. A few accessories can take your garb from day to night: a pair of pearl earrings, and pearl necklace and a pair of ballet flats make your jersey perfect for brunch. A pair of stellar heels and bold, brass bangles and shoulder-dusting earrings transition your jersey to a dress befitting an art gallery opening or a hot date. 

These dos and don’ts are super simple, so you’ll have no problem implementing them next time you wear a jersey dress. Happy styling! 

Regina is a wonderful writer who has previously written two fashion posts on this blog with the first post talking about interview outfits and the second about evening dresses

I Broke It Off, So Why Am I Upset?

Choosing to end a relationship can be a difficult decision, it can also be a cut throat choice, but at the end of the day no matter how sure your decision making is you may not always come out the other side feeling as happy as you expected. So here you are, the one who break their heart but also the one feeling like shit, what's that about?


You're overcome with doubt about whether it was the right decision. You list every 'what if' and end up making yourself more upset than you were to bloody begin with because who knows, maybe things would of changed for the better? This is when you have to kick yourself up the ass and realise if things were going to change they already would have and you wouldn't have broken up with them in the first place.

You feel guilty and maybe even a little selfish, you've made the choice to end things because it's best for the both of you in the long run.. but it's easy to say that when you're the one on the decision end isn't it? Now you just have to sit back and give them space to allow them to come to terms with the breakup in their own way and it's hell, damn you empathy. 

You still care for them or worse, you still love them, unfortunately you can't turn that feeling off with a flick of a switch. The dumpee will more than likely question your feelings for them as it's you ending the relationship (because apparently dumping someone you love isn't a thing *eye roll*) but the reality is your feelings are the main reason why you were so sure to make the decision, you don't want to drag things out when they're not working. 

You think about how you used to be before things went south. There's a reason you two got together so naturally it hurts when you realise all that is lost. You're allowed to grieve a relationship no matter what side you're on because you have lost a partner, someone who you spent days, months or even years with and that is now gone. It's very unlikely you wanted to be in the position you are now so you're allowed to be a little (or very) upset about it, okay?