13 January 2019

Hey 2019

Hey 2019 let's ignore that we are nearing the end of the second week of the New Year already. It's been months since anything was posted on my blog so I thought it would be a good idea to write a little something about what's been going on and where the hell I've been.

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Career. At the end of January last year a management restructure was announced at my work place, this meant my job role was no longer going to exist and therefore I was pretty fucked. I went through a roller coaster of emotions, do I take redundancy? Do I apply for a new role? Do I drop down a grade and be a normal colleague? In the end I thought "fuck it" and applied for a new management role as I had nothing to lose. Luckily for me I did alright and passed the assessment, which is all well and good but this meant moving to a new store.. bare in mind I have only worked in this one place since I was 17 the idea of leaving was bloody terrifying. Anyway, long story short I took the job, moved to a new store in June and faced the biggest challenge of my life so far.  It's certainly been a journey; I have made friends with some amazing people, learned a hell of a lot and experienced some crazy shit!

Home. Mum and myself had finally settled into our new flat and what happens? Our landlord decides to sell; this is when blogging really did get swept under the carpet! We had only been at the flat for a year so it was a massive pain in the backside but in the end it all worked out as we instead moved into a two bedroom new build that I have to say is pretty banging. It took quite a while for us to really get settled in though, especially as the whole career malarkey was happening at the exact same time.

Relationships. The last post I wrote was in regards to a break up at the beginning of last year, and after that I decided to take some time out to just enjoy myself, stop giving a fuck about relationships and generally have fun. This lasted a good couple of months; I had a few dates with a fuck boy from my past - we'll save that story for another time and I also dated Joe who I met online.. Joe soon became my other half and here we are now many months later... modern romance aye!

So there we go.. as much as I love blogging and want to post regularly I am rarely home and even when do manage to get time at home I procrastinate instead. I'm hoping this year I can be more productive and post on here more regularly because I definitely don't want to be one of those people who calls herself a blogger but only posts Instagram pictures. Happy New Year!

22 March 2018

Guest Post: Important Dos And Don'ts Of Jersey Dresses

 Jersey dresses are a wardrobe staple for every woman -- and if you don't have one in your wardrobe, you should. Flattering and super comfortable, jersey dresses can be dressed down with a pair of sneakers for a day on the town, or dressed up with a pair of cute flats or heels for a day at the office or night on the town.  

While comparatively versatile in terms of wearability, the jersey dress does come with it's own set of style considerations: its own dos and don'ts to ensure optimal eye-fetching effect.  

Here's how wear (and how not to wear) this signature style.  

Jersey dresses are meant to be worn so that they skim your figure. You don’t want them to be frumpy and overly loose, but a jersey dress is not meant to cling to your body either. If you can see what kind of underwear you’re sporting when you wear the dress, it’s too tight! 

This really goes for any article of clothing you buy: don’t shy away from alterations! It should go without saying that we don’t all have the same shape, and we’re certainly not all the same height, so if you find the length or torso or neckline of your jersey dress isn’t falling just right  — but the rest of it is rocking  — then snag the dress and head to a good seamstress. Most (but not all) jersey dresses fall just above or at your knee, so if you’re on the shorter side and find it is falling at an odd midi-length, have it hemmed (or hem it yourself if you’re handy with your sewing machine!).  

Sure, jersey dresses are a simple style of dress, but your jersey dress doesn’t have to be basic. Opt for a beautiful jersey dress in a playful pattern or bold colour. Since jersey dresses are so figure flattering, now’s the time to slip into that bright pink or electric blue you’d been to shy to wear before. You can rest assured you’ll look amazing.  

DON’T: Forget Accessories 
Jersey Dress

You should never forget to accessorise any outfit, but especially a more simple cut of dress like a jersey. A few accessories can take your garb from day to night: a pair of pearl earrings, and pearl necklace and a pair of ballet flats make your jersey perfect for brunch. A pair of stellar heels and bold, brass bangles and shoulder-dusting earrings transition your jersey to a dress befitting an art gallery opening or a hot date. 

These dos and don’ts are super simple, so you’ll have no problem implementing them next time you wear a jersey dress. Happy styling! 

Regina is a wonderful writer who has previously written two fashion posts on this blog with the first post talking about interview outfits and the second about evening dresses


25 February 2018

I Broke It Off, So Why Am I Upset?

Choosing to end a relationship can be a difficult decision, it can also be a cut throat choice, but at the end of the day no matter how sure your decision making is you may not always come out the other side feeling as happy as you expected. So here you are, the one who break their heart but also the one feeling like shit, what's that about?

You're overcome with doubt about whether it was the right decision. You list every 'what if' and end up making yourself more upset than you were to bloody begin with because who knows, maybe things would of changed for the better? This is when you have to kick yourself up the ass and realise if things were going to change they already would have and you wouldn't have broken up with them in the first place.

You feel guilty and maybe even a little selfish, you've made the choice to end things because it's best for the both of you in the long run.. but it's easy to say that when you're the one on the decision end isn't it? Now you just have to sit back and give them space to allow them to come to terms with the breakup in their own way and it's hell, damn you empathy. 

You still care for them or worse, you still love them, unfortunately you can't turn that feeling off with a flick of a switch. The dumpee will more than likely question your feelings for them as it's you ending the relationship (because apparently dumping someone you love isn't a thing *eye roll*) but the reality is your feelings are the main reason why you were so sure to make the decision, you don't want to drag things out when they're not working. 

You think about how you used to be before things went south. There's a reason you two got together so naturally it hurts when you realise all that is lost. You're allowed to grieve a relationship no matter what side you're on because you have lost a partner, someone who you spent days, months or even years with and that is now gone. It's very unlikely you wanted to be in the position you are now so you're allowed to be a little (or very) upset about it, okay?


18 February 2018

Give Your Wardrobe A Bit Of TLC In Just 3 Steps

You have spent two hours changing outfits and moaning that you have 'nothing to wear' even though you're standing in front of a very filled wardrobe and let's be honest, you're just going to chuck on a pair of Jamie jeans and a baggy jumper anyway. 

Step One: Clear Out
This is when you need to be brutal with yourself. Ask yourself: Do you wear/use the item? Do you actually need the item? Is the item something that is sentimental that you'll miss?
Start with three piles:
- The keeps
- The get rids; Give these away to friends or charity, or sell them at a car boot/places like Depop/Ebay/Etc.
- The not so sure; If trying on these items doesn't help then question what you would wear them with and if you're still unsure then question whether you've worn it in the last six months, if you haven't then I suggest you should place the item in the get rid pile.

Step Two: Organise.
There is the simplicity of organising the types of clothing e.g tops and bottoms, but everyone is slightly different in how they arrange their clothes and accessories. Always keep your fanciest and most worn items hung up but try to make it so everything is easier to find, that way you aren't rummaging through tons of clothes to find what to wear in the morning. If you're a little stuck I suggest heading over to Pinterest for some inspiration.

I encourage you to think seasonal, if it's summer you won't need to be using valuable space on big coats, jumpers and boots, in the same way as in winter you don't need sandals and bikinis so store these items away whether it's under your bed, in a suitcase or wherever suits you, just bare in mind you will want them handy in case of holidays or a sudden change of weather - especially if you live in the UK.

Step Three: Finishing Touches
Once you've shrunken down your stylish choices and organised to your hearts content you may end up with a shopping list for boxes, hangers, maybe even a new wardrobe? Who knows. This is when you need to make your wardrobe something that is easy to access and doesn't have you rummaging through clothes everyday. I am a sucker for storage so I have under bed drawers for my shoes but as a finishing touch I purchased copper hangers from Primark, things like this make me enjoy my wardrobe a little bit more.


09 February 2018

When "Being Positive" Just Isn't Enough

I have only spoken about my mental health on here once and as much I want to write about this subject it doesn't come as easily as I presumed, until now, because I am at a point where I have had enough.

There are people that say you just need to "cheer up" or to "be more positive" because damn I forgot words can cure mental illnesses, silly me. These words come from the same people who constantly say when life gives you lemons you should make lemonade, well guess what? I don't like lemonade.

During the last few months I have been forcing myself to be happy and enjoy life but eventually the pressure of being positive became too much. I had one of the worst breakdowns I have had in years. I truly feel trapped in this mindset. I can't escape feeling this way and you know what? It's fucking awful. I wake up everyday telling myself  'this day will be different' but it never is; I fake a smile to every person I pass and pretend everything is just fine and dandy when the reality is my brain has shut off and I have basically become a robot. I no longer show many emotions but instead have an instant bitch filter where I reply with sarcasm and sass, because if I don't do that I will end up either crying or sitting in silence.

So let's have a little bit of structure here shall we? But bare in mind I'm not throwing myself a pity party, I don't feel sorry for myself I am just pissed off that my brain does what it chooses.

Prior to my breakdown I chose to end things with my boyfriend, as much as I wanted our relationship to work I knew I wasn't in the right head space and I had to deal with my own shit before focusing on someone else. I feel like this really hit me hard, it was the most difficult relationship I have ever ended and it hit home that I wasn't as okay as I may have thought, my mental health had seriously degraded. This was soon made clearer when I ended up in my room having a mental breakdown and there I was, at my lowest. My week was then made 10x worse as I was told my job role was being removed from the company, talk about timing. Days later I was then informed my flat owner was putting the property up for sale, JACKPOT! This is when I truly want to say a massive fuck you to the people who tell you to 'be positive' because guess what mate? It isn't going to put a roof over my head so surprisingly it isn't going to stop the chemicals in my brain doing whatever they want to do either.


17 January 2018

Current Beauty Favourites

It has been so damn long since I have spoke what beauty products I love so I thought I would put together a little favourites posts so you can see what makeup, skincare products and other bits I have been obsessing over for the last few months.

The first product I want to talk about is skincare related and it's The Body Shop Tea Tree Toner, used after cleansing to remove any remaining makeup and impurities. I use this toner most nights after removing my make up but I also use it when I have had a makeup free day as this product feels very purifying. I have spoken about so many tea tree products from The Body Shop before and I am sure I will continue to as tea tree is an ingredient that really benefits my skin, I definitely recommend their range for anyone with oily skin that is prone to break outs.

Onto makeup I have been obsessed with the Make Up Revolution Soph X Highlighter Palette! Soph is a YouTuber that I started watching early last year and when she announced her collaboration with Make Up Revolution I was pretty intrigued, especially when I saw her swatch this highlighter palette. The pigmentation is honestly amazing for all eight shades, the range of colours allow everyone to get a perfect glow whether it's a slight sheen for work or full on popping for a night out. It's made me fall in love with highlighting. I'm also going to use this to progress onto my next favourite which is the Zoeva 105 Luxe Highlight Brush (Rose Golden) because I purchased this brush the same time I bought the palette and it is perfect, need I say no more.

I also have another brush in my favourites and that is the Zoeva 322 Brow Line (Rose Golden), I was after a new brow brush and thought I'd pop this in my basket when I purchased a bunch of Zoeva brushes and I have been using it everyday with my (also favourite) Make Up Revolution Brow Pomade in the shade medium brown. This is a product I unintentionally spotted and picked to try. I have always used powdered brow products so I was pretty intrigued by this as I know everyone loves the Anastasia Dip Brow Pomade so I wanted to see whether I'd get on with the cream formula and it turns out I do. I find it a lot easier to achieve a strong brow using a cream and once I got the hang of using this product my brows take me a lot less time than when I used a powder, bonus!

Carmex Lip Balm has made it's way into my favourites even though it may be a little boring, but I picked it up at work and it's honestly it's the best balm I have used that has kept my lips soft and crack free throughout the whole of the cold months. It's one of those cheap and simple beauty products every girl should have, oh and it comes in a few flavours too.

My last favourite is the nail polish Essie 42 Angora Cardi. I went on a hunt for a deep purple shade with gorgeous undertones and voila. It's the ideal shade for Autumn/Winter and I have been wearing it on my toes and fingers with no regret, except the fact I always break my nails at work so that's a shame.

06 January 2018

Organise Your Tech And Organise Your Life

You unlock your phone and stare blankly at the red circle letting you know that there's 104 unread emails waiting for you, you then get an alert (for the 12th time this week) that your phone software really needs updating.. "another time" you tell yourself whilst pressing cancel. You tap open the Facebook app to be greeted with a parent letting the world know that her two year old has done their first poo in a potty, as well as a middle aged woman sharing a post to look for a lost puppy in Dublin when wait for it - she lives in Brighton.

Hit that delete button and I don't just mean media and files but also remember to delete unneeded contacts, old messages and abandoned applications. By deleting all these bits and pieces you're not only freeing up storage but you'll be able to find things easier and less scrolling = less time wasted. 

Tailor your social media news feeds and unfriend/unfollow the people and pages you just aren't interested in anymore. We are all guilty of following hundreds of Facebook pages when we were 13 but now we live to regret it as they're spamming our feeds with ads, same goes for befriending every student at school and realising some of them are damn right annoying. Having a clear out like this makes social media so much more enjoyable.I

Give your emails some TLC and get your emails read and deleted; don't worry there's a 'mark all' option for those of you that have accumulated a few too many. Every time you get a newsletter that you aren't interested in make sure you unsubscribe, or do what I do and use unroll.me because it pretty much does the hard work for you. 

Make use of apps and programs because we can't all have a PA so if you're forgetful use the Reminders app to checklist your important to dos. There's also tools such as Cleo which you use for budgeting and keeping on check with your bank balance - I am obsessed with using this so expect a post about Cleo soon.

Make friends with folders and organise what you have in the same way you would organise your dirty laundry. If you're keeping important emails get them arranged into folders so they don't get lost in the abyss and get accidentally deleted. If you're up for it then categories your applications to make your phone screen less cluttered. Your files on your laptop should definitely be in folders which to me goes without saying, but you do you.

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